God Fearing Relationships

Often times, I have seen people claim they want a God-fearing partner. But I have realized many don’t even know what that means when you look at them and the kind of partner they actually choose. People hide their worldly desire and lust under “God-fearing” to appear decent. But the real question is, what is a God-fearing relationship?

There can be no God-fearing relationship without God at the helm. To build a God-fearing relationship, you must understand it through God’s relationship with man. A husband should love his wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. Eph 5:25

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the saviour of the body. Eph 5:22 -23

The love a man has for his wife must be thorough and sacrificial. By choosing her, you have chosen to love her with your life and be willing to sacrifice it. This is why you can’t afford to fuck up your vetting process. You have to be intentional about whom you are committing your life to and whom you are laying it down for. Christ laid down his life and in return, we honour and follow. You dont lay down your life for someone who does not listen to you or follow your leadership. Don’t outsource your leadership or masculinity to your woman else you lose your place.

As a woman, do your due diligence in choosing a partner. “Till death” is a long time to commit to nonsense. You have to choose a man who loves you with his life, whose judgement you can trust, whom you believe can lead your home and raise good kids with. When you have gotten those standards right, you then submit. Choose someone whose leadership you can trust and follow. He is loving you with his life already. 1John 4:19 says we love God because he first loved us. If you are not interested in a man, it is okay. But when a man has come to you with love and you choose him, reciprocate that love and lose all these worldly sense of entitlement and greed that is lacking in love.

This is where I will talk about “See Finish.” I have often said you can’t love someone if you don’t know them. When the Bible says “Adam knew Eve” it was talking about intimacy. Your life and every decision impacts on your partner because they are an extension of you. What excites your partner excites you and what hurts them, hurts you because of the power of intimacy. I’m not talking sex. Your partner is your biggest cheer leader. The world out there is cold but home should be your peace.

Paul writing to the Corinthian Church taught us that Love is patient, kind, does not envy, does not boast, not proud(MEN), does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking(WOMEN), is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs(WOMEN), does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth, always protects(MEN), always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails (For those who says love is not enough).

See where you are lacking and fix up. When it comes to sexual relations, remember your vows. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 1 Cor 7: 4. Don’t follow worldly laws to starve your partner of their conjugal right.

Peter tells husbands to treat their wives with kindness and consideration as being the weaker vessels and tells wives to honour their husbands with submission, purity of heart, godly values and inner beauty like Sarah and not elaborate beautification with elaborate hairstyles, gold jewelries and clothes. Some of you are unapproachable by your partners. They are afraid of you. Jesus said “come unto me all that labour and are of heavy leaden and he will give you rest.” Matt 11:28. Your partner must find rest in you. You are supposed to be their safe place.

Above all, your prayer life and why it is also important to marry someone of your faith. Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Pet 3. Treating each other with love and with godly kindness impacts on your prayer.

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. THE EFFECTUAL FERVENT PRAYER OF A RIGHTEOUS MAN AVAILS MUCH. You can not be righteous if you don’t love your wife. James 5:16. Be accountable to each other and acknowledge your fault else the devil finds a way into your home. There is nothing cute about unaccountability.

If a man say, “I love God,” and hateth his brother, he is a liar. For he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 1 John 4:20. How much more your wife who is a joint heir of the grace of God? The proof that you love God is in how your love yourselves. This starts from your relationship. If you don’t do it in relationship, you can’t do it in marriage.

You will marry once and marry right in Jesus’ name. If you have been hurt before, may you find a better one. In the end, you accept the love you think you deserve.